If she reaches for her dad or someone else, let her go without showing your pain. They can also act very competitive towards the parent of the same gender. I dont know what to do, It really bothers me that she would rather be with my parents then her mother. The other important thing is to protect your supply. A few family members told me to tell my girlfriends mum & dad (nana, granddad) to back off & give us some space when he was born because they were always round us & wouldnt let us breath. Im at the end of the road and i dont know what to do. Just recently he has started clinging to Daddy again, and I noticed that it was coinciding with feeling quite homesick (I live abroad, far away from my parents and siblings). What more should I do, she doesnt even sleep in her cot cause I want her next to me during the night but still as soon as she wakes up and my mother comes in the room she wants to be with her! Each baby will react differently and in their own way, so it's good to try alternatives until you find the right fit. Adjusting to this new life will take time and you can't expect to nail it right out of the gate. Try and make him happy. Ignore the unwanted behaviour and praise the good an all that but God its hard when my feelings are in shreds. Also, when you come home, try to be together with them together with your wife as much as possible, so that their separation anxiety regarding mom doesnt come between the three of you. Thanks, Mai!!! Skype is also, of course, an option, but your babies may not respond to that with any great interest there and then. Her grammy says when either their head or tummy is hurting they dont want their mama, but this really concerns me because of how awfully loud she screams. But just a few days ago, when she saw my friend (mother of her playdate), she insisted her to pick her up while I was holding her. But to love a child DESPITE feeling downright unloved back is extraordinary, seriously. Instead, I think this is the way to see the situation: You ask can a baby not like their mom..? i feel sad and discouraged i know that i shouldnt show it to her.. but i often wonder where i went wrong. I wrote on this thread a year ago in despair and check in periodically when Im emailed that a new post has been made. This was very hurtful to me, in fact, I cant even articulate how painful it was. Let's go for a stroll! Toddler Milestones. Why is a Toddler rejecting Mom after a new baby arrives? I had to go back to work part time at 6weeks, but have been 100% available and loving and devoted every second I have free. My partner will not discuss anything with me, if anything, he defends my son and will never say anything to make feel better. she cries for grand mother . Paula, do you think its because of the association with bad things?? by | May 9, 2022 | cleanliness in islam hadith | hyatt regency seattle bathtub | May 9, 2022 | cleanliness in islam hadith | hyatt regency seattle bathtub From all Ive read, shifting affections in young children is normal as they grow and develop. Im so glad I found this post! Bonding can start at any time, even at 15 months old, even though it can take a bit longer to establish at that point. At first I thought I was imagining it, but after doing a few experiments I had to admit that he really didnt want to be around me. They all saw it for themselves as we were all on holiday together, but its my girlfriends mum & dad not mine but she doesnt see a problem but only a farther will tell. My husband and mother care for him while Im gone (Mon-Fri 12-7pm). Sometime when I am feeding him on the weekends (breakfast typically), my son wants to get out of the high chair and go to dad. I guess maybe now i feel like maybe he knows that I didnt want him at first because he has always been a little distant with me since he was born. I am so sad. Stroke baby, talk to baby. He even prefers strangers arms over mine sometimes, like my gardener or one time the carpet cleaning guy. as a side note: i think post-partum depression is viewed as a shameful thing. But the bond has never come (she is 5 now) I find it hard to love her, probs have more to do with me because I got pregnant again and sort of gave up on her im sorry to say, when my son was born he loved me the best and always wanted me, and she rejected me over and over. But I feel like there are some differences, too. Right now, all she really needs is love, skin contact and food. Try carrying your baby's photo with you at your workplace. My boys are my life and i am so grateful that i am their mom! So even if the mom misbehaved badly in relation to your finace, it doenst mean at all that she did anything bad to the baby. He may be more accepting of it if he is not crazy hungry. Still, for those of us who are lucky enough to have companies that offer small amounts of paid maternity leave, it's still much shorter than most other countries and often ends far before mom and baby are ready. But my 14month old is obsessed with his dad and it totally kills me. Your girls are now 8 months old. If you are going back to work at 6 weeks, you could start introducing your baby to a bottle about two weeks beforehand. Its been like this since he was a newborn. what can i do to make it better? This is my second son who is 8months and I feel me and him bonded great till a month ago and my husbands work schedule changed he is home all day I cant even get a second without him around and when he leaves the room our son fusses and tries to getaway from me I took him in another room to get some time with him he jus screamed and finally ate and went to bed I am very scheduled till few weeks ago, my husband is very not. I am also the sole breadwinner in my family. it is breaking my heart. It is quite common to hear new moms worrying about that the love at first sight that they expected when meeting their child for the first time didnt happen. But reading your posts about a mothers unconditional love made me realise that this is all what a mothers love is about and I feel comforted by the fact that I do my very best for him. And one afternoon she suddenly started rejecting me. But it is so important! I just googled and found this website.. and saw I was not alone. If you are even in the vicinity of your daughter when the nanny is there, she will scream for you and you alone. I totally understand that you are thinking about another job, and maybe that isnt such a bad idea over time But until then or if you choose not to, there are a few things you can do. My son is 9 months old and , Ive always taken care of him feed, everything he needs Ive been by his side since we left the hospital, now that I moved to another state he doesnt call me momma anymore he calls it to his grandma he just doesnt seem to need me anymore . To be able to detach from your natural reactions to being rejected is not easy. Some things you can try to reconnect faster are to: Laugh together! I have a 16 or 17 month cousin, but she calls me Mom! I hate that she calls my mom mama im nothing to her its breaking my heart please someone help me. And when I get her home she ignores me. Just being honest with you. XOXO, Paula. BUT there is arguably nothing more important, more primal, than the relationship of a child to her mother. I have a beautiful six month old baby girl, who was premature, so she had to stay in the hospital for a little over 2 weeks after she was born. People do crazy things in separations. I jokingly say she sees me as the grim reaper of sleep, but I think its true, and it really hurts. My partner thinks I m silly and tells me not to say things like she does not want me but its true, he never worries cause she wants him all the time. It hurts. If someone can take care of your older child now and then; have some fun together, just you and him. by Ashley Jones July 13, 2021 Everything that happens in your life once you have a baby just feels different.. Especially living in India just because the Home Office is not convinced I?m married and have a son. Its easy to be an outsider giving advice, but take it from someone who felt similarly rejected by her own child, I really urge you to consider seeking help and support from a source not on the inside of your situation. At 12 mos the situation was improved. she cries alot wen i pick her back from wrk . Dripping a bit of breast milk from the bottle into your baby's mouth can help. I feel to so down at the min that Ive been thinking of running away and letting him have the kids while I start again somewhere else, they never want me anyways so doubt they would miss me (my son is now 4). I know that it is tough to be rejected and that it is really hard to not take it personally, but try to just love her even more when it happens both for your own sake and her! Secondly, it will help you and your hubby becoming partners in parenting more. Recently, its really been getting to me. But it can take some time to start enjoying the ride ;-) I am really concerned with my family in the way how my daughter prefers only me when I am around. She wont get proper help if its not face2face. Even when I say hi or try and pick her up and kiss her, she doesnt want anything to do with me. You sound beyond sad, really despairing. If the baby doesn't like this, try again later. You can do it. the only way she would stop crying is if i gave her to her caretaker. When I am in the US, I try to work from home on most days so I can spend time with my children. My daughter is fine when she is with me, we have fun and adventures together. You ask about the girl not wanting to talk to mom on the phone. I feel your pain. They simply need this period of increased closeness to gain new courage. I just got back to my parents and was so relieved to see my son but he acted and is acting uninterested in me but my husband got a huge happy reaction from our baby. Make sure you give her 100% of your attention for at least 30 minutes each day and have FUN together during those 30 minutes. Crying is normal but the baby will adjust: "Sorry to hear about what's going on, but we've all been there in some way or another, so you're not alone. Other babies become extremely attached to that person any time she or he is around. seems like they dont need me anymore. Thanks for everyones honesty as a weight has been lifted off my shoulders and Im going to try really hard not to take it personally from today on! Hi everyone, read about this website and how it all started here. I mean, she barely gets to see you and she is used to you maybe so she doesnt really know what else to do. So the estrangement between the two of you became mutual. I still want my mommy on bad days. What the hell do you expect when you abandon your baby? I have to also remind myself daily that this was for the love of God that I had this child. The bond is there, and you obviously love her very much. Try to not show any hurt feelings if she goes to her grandma; she obviously isnt doing it to hurt you and may become quite confused if she can sense your irritation when it happens. :**(, Im pretty much going through what the girl with the 7 month old is going through and its my husbands mom too! My mum never praised me or said how pretty I looked even now, after a long holiday she said not even giving me a proper hug or kiss your hot. At least I say to my baby boy that I love him that am proud of him. I feel robbed of the moments that I didnt get to enjoy with him, she pushed to give him his first bath and has done so much as she says she is helping. I hope you've enjoyed today's post! You might feel really, really sad about going back to work, but you might also feel really excited. The short answer to that question is, thankfully, no. Try putting the bottle itself inside a brightly coloured sock or wrap it in some clothing that smells of his mother. Hello everyone i am a stay home mom from the day my baby boy was born i do EVERYTHING for him!!! I guess i am being silly. she would prefer me if she is with me and strangers but at home I am no where in her priority list. I think for young babies, being reminded of the other parent can be too painful to endure. Talk to your employer to determine the frequency and length of federally-protected pumping breaks. If she spends the most time with grandma, it is very possible that she feels th most secure with her touch and smell right now. Jemma. I have no idea what to do I play with her, I am the person that teaches her everything she knows, I am the one who gets up in the night to comfort her, I am the one preparing food and doing all the motherly things that need doing cuddling and playing but she still doesnt want me most of the time. thanks all for listening to me & i will take every reply seriously. To help us both my Mom moved in and now stays home with my daughter while I work. Being just 1 month old (you can read about the milestones of a 1 month old baby here), your daughter doesnt think anyone is her mom she is just reacting to what feels the most secure. Hi Its a heartbreaking situation for which I cannot give an explanation When I go to pick up my baby from my in-laws, on one side I am looking forward to picking him up and see my baby but then I am always reluctant to open that door and find that he does not even have a smile for me and be faced with another big disappointment. During these 15 minutes, focus only on your son and on showing him interest and love. Try feeding with cool or alternatively warmed milk. Your son loves you no less because he enjoys the company of his grandma. Ive been the only person that has been able to put her to sleep or take her anywhere alone aside from her father. He even says lots of words including daddy, bruh bruh for his brother, nana, papa, juice, more, he even says my niece and nephews names, Michael and Mattie, but he has never said momma! I feel like why I didnt die when she was born. My daughter doesnt cry when she is with me but she just doesnt want to cuddle or be close. I felt so upset, My 18 month baby boy really likes his dad than me. I thought my daughter was the only one to behave this way. This is painful, really painful. A ground-breaking study has found that mothers can go back to work months after the birth of their child without the baby's wellbeing suffering as a result. I am so happy that my two main men have such a great relationship, but I want to share in it too! she fetches her from pre school to be with her , she does mind going with him but when im there , she even cries, she can take anything that he bring her , bt wont allow him to hold her or talk to him. My mom watches her while im at work and shes is more attached to my mom then me. I feel bad for the child. Hi my daughter is 4months old.She only goes to her paternal grandmother.Whenever i try to take her on my lap she starts crying badly. Since attachment can be an issue for adopted children, your question and worries really show what an engaged new mother you are. She really doesnt like me and its getting worse. A few months ago my fiance lost her job and is at home 24/7. it has been like this for over a year now & i now just resent them. They need physical closeness, frequent eye contact, reassurance, tenderness and loveand it must be consistent and from the same personpreferably from the mother, who also feeds the baby. I feel left out. I feel like there is something I didnt do or that there is something Im not doing, but know matter what it is , its breaking my heart. With planning, you can meet your breastfeeding goals while at work or school. The last thing I want is for her to get older and call me mom when she sees me (even in public areas were if Im with her and she calls me mom everyone will look at me funny!). Instead of turning your relationship into a power struggle, (trying to make him say mommy, for example), be proud of how much you have helped him to grow already! Very hopeful! Please think long and hard before you do so, and before you delude yourself into thinking that leaving the baby with someone other than you for extended periods is no big deal. Thats good too; try to see that. Now he is 22 months and everything has reversed I can see the love I so much needed to see reflected in his eyes and I know he needs and appreciates me. She wants to go to ANYONE (atleast any relative that shes familiar with) instead of me; her dad most importantly. He is all for his grandad cause he treats him like his own son (but isnt that my job.) for example, is perfect for a baby with separation anxiety. However, there is no way of telling ahead of time whether your baby will go happily from breast to bottle and back again. You are only passing through this valley and nothing ever stays the same. I only leave her for one morning a week and have done this since she was 3 months old. Anyways here is the question: The childs mother wants to see her but obviously we are afraid shell take off again. Up till this point she has always been a happy child, always smiling and loved everyone. Have you ever considered that? Sometimes I just want to give up and let her be. She cant even choose not to, because you are her mom. Paula. Can someone give me a lil advice to help me. His granddad plays with him every minute he gets with him. I just want to know what I am doing wrong, so I can change it. I feel so much for you! Eventually I had to admit that this was not helping either her or me and quit with breastfeeding, something that hurts me to my core. Mine is something similar. It took me a while to get into the groove of motherhood not sure whether it was my age, post partum? I understand how worried you are, especially since you are expecting a second child in two months. It kills me and its making me resent her so much. Take a bath the three of you, cuddle up together for a nighttime story and go out having fun together. I really hope this was at least a little bit of help. I am really shattered. should i stop my caregiver from sleeping next to her to maybe stop them from being too close? I then take her home and just when she starts to be happy with me, my husband comes home and I am nothing. So worried he is forgeting about me. Thank you SO much for writing about this!! She even slapped me in the face. Hold your baby skin to skin, and keep your baby close. it really was beautiful. I feel like she associates me with all things bad (i.e. When my husband and I return from work (both at the same time) he always searches for his father and greets him with a big smile, as for me he ignores me completely and I am the one that plays with him most. And the fact that your daughter is now fussy eater may have absolutely nothing to do with those difficult times. I understand what you are saying about your little girl. All of a sudden our 9 month old son seems to prefer his daddy over me. After all, during their first twelve months babies still physically need mother's milk. Does anyone have any success stories in terms of their baby eventually being more bonded to them? Do whatever it takes to push her to her place. I wake him up with a bottle in the morning and put him to bed with a massage and kisses and rocking at night. I spent a lot of time crying and have found it hard, but I have loved my son and spent 7 months with him looking after him playing with him feeding him etc. He cant even get close to here with a crying. When I drop her off at daycare she doesnt look twice. She goes to everyone and she does not seem to miss me if i am not around. This is probably one of the most important things that helps to deal with working mom anxiety. Take your baby for a casual walk. I wrote on this post several months ago, when my son was 9 months old. His Aunty drops down most weekends and he does not want to know me when she is around. He will be picked up and carried around for the smallest incident. When she was 5 months old, daddy came back.the moment she saw my husband at the door was a funny one. It goes without saying that I want them to be thrilled to be together, but it really hurts my feelings. weekends wen i wanna spend time with my gal they comes in between n tells my husband to bring her over . After a mid year holiday I started a new term and now she seems to pretty much loathe me when I get home and quite frankly it is breaking my heart. I thoguht maybe I didnt give her enough love because I was so busy trying to get her into a routine. He squirms out of my arms and nearly vaults himself into my husbands arms when my husband walks past us. Sigh. Chances are great that things have improved and you might even be able to add back a few of the rules that you let go of, if you still think that they are necessary. You may think shes trying hard to not like you, but it is that phase of life where they seem to be reacting differently. It may be because she may be spoiled to the phase of a daddys girl, or it may be you. So a temporary solution is essential. So once him and I began dating his daughters mother began using the daughter as leverage to get things in return for him to spend time with his daughter. When he was 4-6 mos, a friend was holding him and he didnt want to come back to me when I asked for him. I breastfed for the first four months, and we definitely bonded. 4. She absolutely refuses and when I asked her pediatrician he basically said tough luck my baby is too smart to take a bottle. Pls help. Your baby is enjoying the world around him and right now grandma is great fun. Most times I doubt she even knows that I am her mother. But if grandma or grandpa or daddy was her he would def go with one of them instead of me! she would change his clothes without asking me and constantly hold him all day, the past few months all he wants is her he reaches out whenever he sees her or will start crying if i dont give him 2 her. When I get home she doesnt get excited to see me. Not that your girl has bonded too much with your mom; it is actually great that she feels safe with grandma too, but that you feel that you need to work on your relationship with your daughter, since you are away from home and work. So I came online, and read this entire thread. my 13 month old is having the worth temper tandrums ever. baby rejecting mom after going back to workbusiness memo examples. Above all, enjoy these last few weeks with your little one. (And no chords these evening until your baby is asleep! Sometimes the distraction of being outside together will help so that she does not focus on dad being away. My son has done this to me ever since he was about 4 months old. Recently, ive had the exact same problem with my 16 month old baby, after i took 3 months off work and back to work a month ago. Im very concerned about you. I have come on to this site to read these postings a couple times over the past couple months and while I am relieved to see that I am not the only one, I want to know why this is happening? Try feeding in a close and cuddled up position. On the other hand when where home our out she only wants me and nothing to do with her father. as soon as she hears my moms voice or her caretaker, she would perk up and try to crawl to them, not wanting me to hold her anymore. I would actually bet on the second explanation, since you write that you did build a strong bond with her during her first 6 months. Im a stay at home mom so Im with her everyday. I know that very well! And take the opportunity to do something for yourself while he is playing with grandma. Speak with Your Boss. If your baby was nursing well and suddenly refuses your breast, this may be what some call a . Im very hurt and try not let it get to me but its hard. !<3 n Yes no matter how they are with you, you love them soooooo much without something in return! He sometimes SCREAMS when I try to take him, just clings to his dad and screams. But I feel like Im not supposed to think that. Have someone other than mom do the feeding 2. Do you think itll pass? And as being the preferred caretaker at the moment, your mom can help you a lot by firmly handing over your daughter to you at certain points. Within a week I was less upset and things were turning around. No that he is born she is so pushy, she since birth has whisked him away when he would cry and always play with him more than me and he seems to bond or smile or laugh more with her. The more you as her mom can help her both with attachment as a young toddler, but as a child growing more aware of her history, the emotions and questions it raises, the more you can help your daughter grow up as a happy, confident child. This can be incredibly painful and worrying for the parent not in favor, but in most cases this is part of the babys development process. I cant stop crying. If a baby won't take a bottle, and is becoming anxious even at the sight of one, it may help to disguise it in some way. Somtimes she seems to get very distressed, but at bedtime I read to her and hold her, my wife says Im the best person to get her to sleep? I sometimes wish that I could die and I admit that there are times when I have seen all my competitors as my enemies and I wanted to hurt my own child out of jealousy..But then I would never do that..My relationship with my husband and his family is degrading day by day..And I regret having married him at all even though he is the best husband and dad ever..I dont know what is happening to me!! Mostly because he or she is a baby who really has no idea what "work" is, but also because you're a good mom who loves her baby no matter what. I try to be a good mum, I stay at home and try to take her out every day to do new things, I play with her and sing her songs. Just remember you are a good mother for having these feelings!! I work full time and travel quite a bit during the summer, up to a week at a time. Ive taken better care of him then his real dad. will my daughter never love me or be close to me. It sounds similar to what many of you have posted, and Im glad to know that Im not the only one going through this. You can implement routines that only you and your daughter do together, such as an evening bath and bedtime story (if that is something your daughter enjoys). I really am. Im assuming this is not the case with you, obviously. I have tried to brush the way my son behaves off, and put it down to just being a phase, but it has gone on for so long now. My daughter is now almost 10 months old and cries even when I walk by. Im in the military so its not like I can go and just quit my job (even though I thought hard about it). But those 6 weeks were rough for everyone involved, and baby's gotta eat! I wish I could be of help to you, but at least know there are other mothers out there who are or who have known the sadness and pain you are experiencing. there babys there used to those that give them there needs and time and attention Im going on my 3rd baby and what i find affective is how the care provider response when you get there Im always excited and hug and kiss daddy when he is home and thats how my children respond they love daddy but when they want or need something its always mommy and believe me some time i want it to be daddy, MY YEAR OLD DAUGHTER PREFERS ANYONE BUT ME, EVEN THO I BREAST FEED, AND DO EVERYTHING FOR HER IN GENERAL, I TRY NO TO SPOIL HER BECAUSE SHE IS THE ONLY DAUGHTER, GRAND DAUGHTER, NICE AND SO ON I NEVER HAD A POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION SO IT CANT BE THATIM LAID OFF SO IM WITH HER 24/7 NO ONE HAS EVER BABY SET HER I DONT HAVE MY PARENTS NEAR OR ANY FAMILY, BUT MY HUSBAND FAMILY COME OVER AROUND TWICE A WEEK I ALWAYS WANTED HER TO BE OPEN WITH PEOPLE AND NOT TO BE SHY SO I THAGTH HER TO LOVE EVERY ONE ESPECIALLY HER GRANDMOTHER BUT NOW I THINK I DID MISTAKE WITH THAT BECAUSE IT SEEMS THAT SHE DOESNT LOVE ME ANY MORE :( IS DEPRESSING ME NOW PLEASE HELP ME..IAM OPEN TO ANY ADVICES THANK YOU. Consider your overall financial picture. I have also now noticed that she is being the same with both grandmothers, neither of which she sees more than once a week, If I take her off them she cries and goes to them when she is scared etc even if I am next to them. It makes me very sad because she tried so hard for her and I feel like I waited my whole life to have a child and she is our only one and now I wonder what I am doing that is so wrong. Many babies go through periods when only one of the parents will do it can be either the mom or the dad. Is it common that a baby rejects mom after going back to work? in the morning when she wakes up, she doesnt even smile at me anymore. 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